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Find your feminist fucking fantasy in 2013

I’m a feminist and I like porn. A lot of people think that the two don’t mix, but I will have you know: that isn’t so. In fact, we mix quite well. My roots in feminism are bound to the timeless idea that a woman has a right to choose, and to not be questioned on that choice. The same goes for porn and my involvement in or enjoyment of it. 

Over the years, I have watched my fair share of porn and have come to understand the tropes that inform my own desires with sex. Furthermore, I let them be and enjoy the fuck out of them. But I have encountered many friends, women, and queer folks who disclose a sense of guilt or shame when they tell me then enjoy watching a woman be humiliated or dominated in a world of porn that entitles men as its primary audience. But I say: Do away with the guilt and shame you feel, lest they hold your fantasies hostage. 

In order to guide my fellow feminists on their quests to find their fucking fantasy (guilt- and shame-free) in 2013, I have compiled a list of types of porn that may fuck with the cultural norm. 

So go forth and cum!

Public Humiliation

Who doesn’t love a little Public Humiliation? “Public Shame” porn is geared towards the participant’s fantasies. In this way, public humiliation can be quite empowering, as any person living out their fantasy may find. Great sites (like publicdisgrace.com) feature some super sexy Public Humiliation fantasies with squirt-inducing porn stars. Personally, I’d let James Deen humiliate me any day, anywhere. The majority of videos in the Public Humiliation realm are, of course, of women being man-handled to the extreme.  

Hentai

Cartoon or animated porn allows us to imagine sex in a way that may not be physically possible. Hentai animation is juicy: characters of the Hentai that I have been privy to witness are artists of excessive wetness. If you like sloppy, wet sex with cute characters, Hentai might be worth a shot (no pun intended). There is a mixture of female roles in a lot of Hentai; sometimes the female anime characters are young, sweet and virginal, while other times they are dominant, horny, and octopus-tentacle-obessed. 

BDSM

Whips, chains, bondage, and gagging. What else can one really say about BDSM? This pornographic genre has seen much contention over its time, but if you’re down for pain or being the bearer of such, then perhaps skimming some BDSM porn for ideas is for you. There is a large culture of BDSM’ers in almost every city, and I’ll have you know that Toronto is no exception. We’ll be sure to keep you folks posted on Leather gatherings in and around the city (most likely in caves, dungeons, and dark bars).  

Hirsutism (commonly called ‘Hair Fetish’)

Hirsutism plays on the cultural condemnation of body hair. It features furry women; women with wild bushes, arm pit hair galore, fuzzy upper lips, and fine treasure lines leading the way up their butt cracks. If you feel like watching some girls who aren’t ashamed of their natural hairiness get their fuck on, go on and get hairy with Hirsutism. 

Feminist Porn

All hail Feminist Porn! It is the all-encompassing genre that has women, feminists, and us queer folks as the target audience. Feminist Porn is down for the real fucking scenes. I’m talking body hair, girl-on-girl, sweat, squirt fests, trans-folks, safe sex, strap-on’s, and yes, hetero sex, too! Feminist porn is not about queers and women only—it’s about showcasing realistic ways of getting off, and not leaving the male cum-shot as the grand finale. Feminist Porn heralds the orgasm as the “be all, end all” in the magical world of porn. Feminist Porn is inclusive and not festishizing or demeaning, showcasing all women, all colours, all creeds, and all sizes. Check out queerporn.tv or Toronto’s Good For Her store at Harbord and Spadina for some quality Feminist Pornography.

Brief, but hopefully sufficient, I hope this guide has wielded within you a desire to find some alternatives to the fantasies you once new. Make 2013 the year of finding your feminist fucking fantasy and let the crazy, sexy you out.

~ Prima Feminista | Photo: Varina Adams from QueerPornTV

3 comments
MaxBaru
MaxBaru

I don't think that notion 'the right to choose' ought to be used so loosely as it is here. The only modern doctrine that i know of that centers on an absolute right to choose feature is american libertarianism;  often what complements the feature of a right to choose is the responsibility of bringing ones actions to social account.  I'm not opposed to porn in the abstract, or to the idea that feminism and porn can be complementary. But I do think that there are plenty of things to be concerned about in this topic, and claiming that it's all about the right to choose is a very precarious place to make your stand. 

PrimaFeminista
PrimaFeminista

@MaxBaru hey max, thanks for your response. I am curious then what you might deem feminism or feminist porn to be about. for me, feminism is about my right to choose and to not be judged on my choice. this extends to a lot of areas of life: my choice to have or not have kids, my choice to be with a certain partner, my choice to be in or watch porn or not be in or not watch porn, my choice to work or not work, etc. of course, all actions are not without accountability, i do agree with that. my apologies if that wasn't made clear (as i didn't mention it)... I tend to think that is assumed, but it absolutely is not. thank you for pointing that out.

MaxBaru
MaxBaru

@PrimaFeminista Ahoy.

so i started this reply by trying to sketch out what I thought feminism & feminist porn was about for me, but I realized this was a slippery slope to writing an essay on here which is probably a bad idea-- so i'd be happy to exchange my thoughts on that with you in some other medium. 

Suffice it to say: I think that part of what social reform programmes try to do is modify the social contract. and that social contracts necessarily invite us to give up some of our choices in order to attain higher levels of freedom.

 so for example, freedom from violence or the freedom to speak freely are more obvious ones. Freedom from some forms of exploitation are trickier. Like right to work laws -- in a way, it is true that you ought to have the right not to join a union and pay dues if you dont want to. But the reality is that if you do that you are coasting on the perks that the union provides without paying in -- which will, given enough time, bust the union (which is the idea behind right to work laws).  In agreeing to form an industry union, in a sense, we agree that the benefits of paying in (the freedom it earns) is more important than each persons right to choose if they want to pay in or not on an individual basis. Extra question-begging aside (of which there is potentially a lot here) I think the point generalizes.

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Sometimes, I think it's hard to be sure if you're being defiant of an unjust social contract or just plain being a scab. I think that is why porn is a grey area for many feminists and their allies.