Here’s some news to relieve all of you women who have difficulty getting an orgasm during penetration: only 30% of women actually can. The rest of us have to work our clit to climax.  

Does this situation sound familiar: 

He’s banging you hard from behind. You shriek out some resounding orgasmic cries. He cums and then falls down on to the bed exhausted and asks: 

”Did you cum?”

To which you reply “No but that’s okay it felt really good.”

Perplexed he looks at you, like you are a disfunctioning machine, and whines “Why don’t you ever cum when we fuck?”  

Mmm. Difficult and awkward. His ego is shot down and you are wondering the same thing, “Yeah, why don’t I ever cum? This sucks!” You think, all your other friends orgasm during sex but Dr. Rebecca Rosenblat, aka Dr. Date, lets us know that if these women are experiencing an amazing ‘O’ it’s because they are either one of the lucky 30% but more likely their pleasure is prevailing from: 


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Shallow thrusts (that are stimulating the clit).
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A release of the g-spot (due to positioning of cock in pussy)
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Manual stimulation (thanks to his nimble fingers)
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Masturbation.

“This is why a tampon offers zip stimulation – as it is back where there are no nerve endings”, adds Rosenblatt; makes sense.  

The only two other possible way us 70% can attain orgasm could be through deep breast stimulation or a magical thing called a ‘phantom orgasm.’ Oh my…what’s that? A fantasy so rich that it can stimulate you down below without touch, which is how paraplegics manage. 

Back to the post fornication fumbly talk – may we suggest a solution to avoid this: toss in a bottle of Durex Utopia next time you are shopping for toothpaste or chicken.  

Lubricant is a word that we associate with dryness – so instead, lets refer to Durex Utopia as an arousal gel. Not to say that vaginal dryness is negative or uncommon – because we’ve all been there after an unusually long romp when the Oh Oh Oh turns to Ow Ow Ow – but the Durex Utopia goes much further than just giving you a slick feel.

Did you know that the average Canadian woman takes 20 minutes to orgasm through masturbation? Tick tock!  For many 20 minutes is difficult to find on a day that is non-stop busy with work, errands, social obligations etc. Why the ef does it take so long? Two main reasons: 

TOO MANY THINGS ON THE GO: 

“Women are natural multi-taskers” says Rosenblat. This means that it is difficult to concentrate on masturbation when a million things are running through our mind. I don’t know about you but I’ve often wondered why mid-fantasy I begin thinking: 

– Aww shit, I’ve got to pay the hydro bill
Did I call Deb back? 

– Must send thank you note to Grandma
Does the recipe call for Oregano?

Even worse, you are checking your blackberry mid wank. Yep – not exactly stimulating. 

I’M NOT FEELING ANYTHING!!

Two minutes in, if you’ve ever wondered: “Is my hand actually stroking my clit? Because I’m not feeling turned on.” It’s not necessarily because you suck at jerking off rather a lack of temperature change or similar texture ain’t working those nerve endings. 

SOLVING MASTURBATION OBSTACLES WITH DUREX UTOPIA

– The gel has a tingly sensation that engorges the clit, making you concentrate on it more and feel the sensation deeper

– It has a temperature change allowing immediate sense of touch. When you stick your hand in hot water, your nerve endings react immediately – same thing.  

This is why when tested, 95% of women who used the product were more aroused. 

Aside from feeling oooh – so – good, why is an Orgasm important? 

Rosenblat explains that “an orgasm releases oxycotin, known as the love drug or bonding hormone”. This hormone mellows us out, boosts our immune system, causes euphoria which in turn makes us de-stress.  

When we first hook up with a new guy we shag like mad releasing this hormone, which is why you can probably look back on some flings and think, “what the hell was that all about?”, could be that love drug that held you close despite his asshole tendencies.  

It is also no coincidence that this same drug is released during breastfeeding. No matter how loud a baby cries at 5AM, you will dote, cuddle and love him/her as your body will make sure you do.  

Lastly, Rosenblat mentions that the Durex Utopia “doesn’t taste funky”; in case mid-penetration you break for a suck.  

So while you may be scowering the vitamin aisle or fruits and veggies section looking for some healthy dietary ingestion, be sure to consider your sexual health too. I don’t know about you but as much as I love cooking up a ratatouille, I’ll take a mind-blowing orgasm over that any day.