Wedding Etiquette

by Karen
The spring showers are finally over and the summer months are upon us. For me, this typically means two things: full-out road construction across the GTA and many weddings.

I love weddings. I would get married every Saturday (to the same guy, of course) because our wedding was the best party we’ve ever hosted. And that’s what it should be. It’s not about the bride or how pretty she loves (and if you think it is, get a prenup)

Weddings are also a field of landmines when it comes to etiquette – along with births and funerals, weddings conjure up volumes of antiquated and dogmaticrules. In the next few columns, I’ll do my best to tackle some of the biggies.

But first, a caveat.

The two golden rules I followed and now preach are:
1) Be absolutely resolute on the things that matter to you.
2) Be willing to bend them for the people you love

Example: you’re not digging the religious vows and want a ceremony that reflects you and your partner. Don’t compromise that. On the other hand, your guest list is 99.99% full but your in-laws have a very close friend that they would like to attend (and you know they’ll probably have a better time at the wedding if these folks are there to celebrate with them). Find the room.