by Karen Cleveland
Try and use the word “limp” in a positive context. Tough, huh?

Limp handshakes are gross. Nothing worse than when I’m really excited to meet someone, extend my hand and they offer me a limp, loose hand in return. Handshakes are mini rituals. They are big social signifiers – very telling of ones’ character. If you have too strong of a grip, it comes across as domineering. Too soft of a touch and it reeks of weakness.

I’m of the mind that handshakes are best served standing up, as opposed to sitting. What an odd gesture to greet someone formally enough to shake their hand, but not formal enough to stand for the occasion? Even if you’re cramped in behind a table, make the effort to stand up – even if it turns into a weird-ass-barely-hovering-above-the-chair stand.

Make eye contact. Offer (or accept) with a firm grip. Fully take your co-shakers hand (not just the finger tips). Shake gently but firmly once or twice. Smile if you like. Offer your name and repeat their name, if you’re feeling it. Repeat. Become a social butterfly.

If you think your shake might suck, get out there and practice. Ask a friend to evaluate your grip – but first ensure they’ll be honest. Ask them to shake on it, for good measure.