Valentine’s Day is scary, and most women spend the month ahead panicking about what tricks to pull out of a hat to wildly seduce their partner. Sheesh – STRESSFUL! We asked sexpert Josey Vogels’ advice to handle a relationship at every stage.

The “we’ve been together forever” sex slump

You love him, but your sex life is ‘eh’. What to do?
– Make sure to schedule time for romance…we think it was spontaneous, but it never was!
– It’s difficult to just flick the switch on Valentine’s Day so warm up with: a sexy e-mail, late night text or a flirtatious note from www.sweet-nothings.ca
– Do something that makes you feel sexy: go to the gym, get a massage – when you feel sexy, you feel confident, and you can re-connect with your body. Walk around for a week saying – “I’m really hot” Think with your crotch. Guys do it all the time.

Fling!

Vogels describes this stage as the time when “your partner breathes, it turns you on.” When things are really exciting, it’s a good time to open up and try new things:
– Push your boundaries! Strip tease, try toys: later on it will be more difficult to mix it up
– Take advantage of your inhibitions

The Virgin

You are planning on losing it on V-day (ha – how appropriate)
– Be careful not to set yourself up. It may not live up to your ideal fantasy
– Take time to make the best conditions possible (a bed, nice sheets)
– Create a romantic setting
– If you are self conscious about your body, do not underestimate the power of good lighting – red light, candles-to help increase your confidence

We ask Josey Vogels what she considers to be the most underrated foreplay, and the wise sex lady tips us off:
– Compliments
– Building anticipation, when you think you are ready to ‘do it’ – wait another ten minutes
– Touch – in high school we are taught this routine: kiss for a bit, boobs, crotch. Instead, take your time to really touch a person’s body and you will find all sorts of different areas of arousal; electric currents.
– Laughter – people take sex too seriously

Don’t freak out, it’s just one day after all.