Why when I masturbate do I always get stuck on the same demented…and I think unhealthy….fantasy? It’s always me as a teenager with some dirty old neighbour telling me I’m a slut. Either this or me sucking off my math teacher or ski instructor. Is there something wrong with me that I’m so fixated on this Lolita submissive shit?__Makes me feel like a pervert…but always gets me off.
Xtina: No, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with you other than the fact that you seem to be ashamed of having a healthy imagination and an impressive ability for sexual fantasy. Even though we have complete control in our fantasies – we can have sex with whomever we want, wherever we want, however we want – the most common fantasy tends to be that of vanilla, no-kink sex with a past, present, or sometimes, imaginary lover, so consider yourself one of the lucky ones!
Psychologists have broken down these reveries into three main “flavors”: Novel or forbidden imagery, Scenes of sexual irresistibility, and Dominance and submission fantasy, the latter being right in your wheelhouse and much more common than you’d think. While submissive desires may be confusing, it should comfort you to know that 51% of women share your fantasy of being forced to have sex and to fulfill another’s wishes.
Have you ever thought about making this fantasy a reality? You may be pleasantly surprised with the results of some role-play with a significant other or willing participant who isn’t actually your dirty old neighbor.
Wherever your sexual fantasies take you, let the records show that habitual fantasizers have more frequent sex, more erotic adventures, more partners, and pleasure themselves more often than those who aren’t prone to fantasies, so I say let those sexy inner thoughts run rampant and enjoy what they bring.