Dear MJ, 

My ex-fiancé and I called off our engagement two weeks ago. We were together for two years and engaged for only two months when we mutually decided to call it quits. 

Our relationship was often strained, so I’m relieved to move on.

Surprisingly, in the past two weeks a few male friends have shown

interest in me and are terrifically hornified for a romp or two. I just want to have a little kinky fun after being monogamous (and SEX-LESS! God, I am aching for a good lay since my ex and I haven’t had good sex in MONTHS) for so long, so I’m ready to have a roll in the hay and hang out with different guys. 

I personally don’t think it’s too soon, because I’m absolutely happy with the way things are. Some folks are saying otherwise. What do you think? 

Rawkgrrl on the rebound

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Dear Rebound, 

What I think is that you need to get laid. Pronto.

It sounds to me like you know what you want: good, clean, kinky fun. GIDDY UP, I say! 

Listen, if you told me you were ready to start up another serious, monogamous relationship, I would tell you to slooooow down– but it doesn’t sound like that’s what you’re looking for. 

Great news that the break up was a mutual one and that you’re adjusting well so far. And bravo to you for facing the issues and calling off your engagement when you did! Too many people hang on to stale relationships for FAR too long. I personally could never imagine a sexless relationship, let alone a sexless marriage- I get shivers just thinking about it. 

You will certainly never find any shortage of people willing to give you their opinion so take heed to what the ones who know you best are saying. But, at the end of the day, you really do have to do what feels right and if that means going on a few dates and having the odd fling, I don’t see any harm in that. You’ll clearly also never find any shortage of men willing to shag you! I had to laugh over the fact that it took less than 2 weeks for your male ‘friends’ to come forward with their intentions… I just picture this pack of dogs anxiously waiting in the bushes to pounce on you after your break up. Ah, men.  

The only caution I would offer is: don’t confuse great rebound sex with love. Jumping into bed right away is one thing, but jumping into a serious relationship is another.  

Have fun, my friend! (and as our friends at Trojan would say: play it safe!) 

Yours in love,

MJ