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HOW TO ORGASM WITHOUT EJACULATING

Well, men, wouldn’t it be great if you, like women, could have multiple orgasms? Well, ta da! You can! All you have to do is learn how to have an orgasm without actually ejaculating. Since ejaculation follows the orgasm by one or two seconds, it feels essentially the same. Orgasm and ejaculation can be separated and controlled by following these three practices:

1. Controlled breathing.
2. Strengthening the PC (pubococcygeus) muscle.
3. The stop/start method.

Controlled Breathing

1. Not only will long, deep and controlled breathing keep your mind of your genitals and its sensations, it will help you slow down your heartbeat when you’re about to orgasm. Start practicing on your own by taking long, deep breaths and then, counting to three, exhaling as slowly as you can. It’s best to do this through the nose since air passes even slower this way.

2. While making love, when you are coming close to orgasm, your breathing will naturally start to speed up as you become more and more excited. Simply inhale, hold for a few seconds, and then exhale slowly (through the nose). Your body will become more relaxed and you will not ejaculate.

3. According to tantra, you can also control your breathing by “exchanging energy with your partner.” Keep your faces close together while you breathe in and she breathes out, and vice-versa.

4. If you feel you have to stop thrusting to delay ejaculation, then, by all means, stop, but keep your breathing rhythmic and slow. This will calm your body down quicker and you can resume the thrusting.

Strengthening the PC Muscles

1, Since these are the muscles one uses to stop the flow of urine, start practicing by stopping urine at mid stream. Start off just once during urination, then build up by stopping and going a few times.

2. Continue strengthening on your own by tightening the PC muscles several times a day and holding them for a few seconds each time. You’ll gradually build up the strength necessary to use those muscles to stop an orgasm.

3. Lift weights with your penis by giving yourself an erection, hanging a towel or wet washcloth over the end, and trying to lift.

4. Now for the love-making: clamp down on your PC muscles to stop yourself from ejaculating. Do this at the moment you feel an orgasm is about to occur, i.e., when you experience that familiar tingling sensation. You will orgasm without ejaculating, and as a result, stay hard.

The Stop/Start Method

1. Practice on your own by masturbating. Once you feel you are near ejaculating (AKA, the point of no return), pull back until the feeling subsides, and then start again. This way you build up your PC muscles, as well as desensitize your self so that you can last longer.

2. Practice this same approach while having sex. When you feel you are approaching the point of no return, stop what you are doing until the urge subsides. Then start again and stop again when you feel you are approaching orgasm. It may take a few tries to identify the point of no return and to stop before you reach it.

3. Once you reach the first initial orgasm, don’t stop. Continue but only at a pace that is only intense enough to help keep you hard. This can take many times to find the correct pace. You can also tell your partner to slow down or you can get on top so that you can control your movements.

There are also a few things than can be done manually to help a man orgasm without ejaculating. Each of the methods I’m about to describe may result in the man losing part of his erection, but it can be recovered quickly so that he can continue. When the man communicates that he is about to come: 1. The woman can form a "tripod" with her thumb, index and middle fingers, which she places around the tip of his penis and squeezes until the orgasm passes and his body relaxes; 2. The woman can take the palm of her hand and press down on the tip of his penis; 3. The man or woman can grip onto the base of his penis and hold, again until the orgasm passes.

The ultimate goal here is for the man and woman to come together, multiple times, and, as a result, live happily ever after.

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19 comments
JohnDugan
JohnDugan

One other thing for guys to remember: the longer it’s in play, the more likely it will get a bit sore (if deliriously happy) – so it makes sense to regularly use a first rate penis health cream (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil).One that includes natural hydrators (e.g., shea butter, vitamin E, etc.) can be helpful in alleviating that soreness.

abloom27
abloom27

Read the "Multi Orgasmic man" ( MAM) for extensive guidance (covers both men and women - title is misleading. Also you might consider an article on the next 2 levels of this topic. In Tantra, once you can do the above (as you described) you can get to the waves - orgasms that are way more intense, start on there own and eventually you end up in permanent orgasm with increasing / decreasing intensity. If you go further, you hit a state where your whole body is coming and you lose all thoughts. Those who learn this stuff avoid ejaculation often for weeks on end. Learn just the basics and use Tantric sex and you can go for hours and hours without getting tired, chaffed and come more intensely then ever. Learn all of this and eventually you can come in your head while doing things publically just thinking (takes a lot of practice). Sadly, western guys blow on average in about 10 minutes and are done. Hard to get a woman off much that way. nothing like coming together non-stop for hours - very eastern and very counter to our culture (manliness is how long/how much pleasure you can give your partner, here it is the opposite mostly).

JJ12345
JJ12345

Why the woman? Guys can't be gay? Pff

yes
yes

To learn how with pictures, I suggest reading Love Satisfies by Keepitup Johnson

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Anonymous
Anonymous

I can orgasm without ejaculation but have trouble staying hard . Guess I'll try strengthening my pc further by lifting with a towel, thanks!

Kevin
Kevin

I practice multiple times a day, and it's so much nicer to feel an orgasm and stay hard after. Cheers to a better sex life!

Kevin
Kevin

I practice multiple times a day, and it's so much nicer to feel an orgasm and stay hard after. Cheers to a better sex life!

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john5069

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Anonymous
Anonymous

Is this a dangerous practice?

Anonymous
Anonymous

I've been doing this for years! I've always thought it was just something I could do and always considered myself lucky. Never thought about googling it to see if others can too!

clarkehumphrey
clarkehumphrey

@abloom27 Hi. My name is Clarke and I'm working on a story about men who have trained themselves to do this and would love to talk to you about it. You can email me at clarkehumphrey2014@u.northwestern.edu if you'd like to chat. I'd really appreciate it! Thanks. 

clarkehumphrey
clarkehumphrey

@Anonymous Hi. My name is Clarke and I'm working on a story about men who have trained themselves to do this and would love to talk to you about it. You can email me at clarkehumphrey2014@u.northwestern.edu if you'd like to chat. I'd really appreciate it! Thanks. 

abloom27
abloom27

Read Multi Orgasmic Man. After a certain point your penis goes limp. That is part of how it works. Your penis has 4 stages of erection. Limp after hard without ejaculation is what you want so you can come for hours. However, a stronger PC is very helpful.

clarkehumphrey
clarkehumphrey

@Kevin Hi. My name is Clarke and I'm working on a story about men who have trained themselves to do this and would love to talk to you about it. You can email me at clarkehumphrey2014@u.northwestern.edu if you'd like to chat. I'd really appreciate it! Thanks.