Women have four hot spots. Did you know this? I didn’t. Up until a week ago, I thought there were only three: The clitoris, the G-Spot, and the U-Spot. Well, lo and behold, we ladies also have an A-Spot. I’d like to say I discovered this hot spot through vigorous sexual activity, but sadly, it was actually through research, while I was reading about the other three. So, without further delay, here is a description of what each hot spot is, where it is located and how it can be stimulated through foreplay, sex and toys.
This is the most sensitive spot on the female body. It’s located at the top of the vulva, where the inner labia join at their upper ends. The visible part is the tiny, nipple-sized, female equivalent of the tip of the penis, and is partially covered by a hood. When aroused, it becomes swollen and erect. Part of the clit is hidden beneath the surface and extends down to the vaginal opening. Though this can be stimulated through a vibrator (the deep vibrations are able to reach underneath), it is less sensitive than the tip, which can be stimulated through foreplay and intercourse.
Foreplay: Rub your thumbs in little circles around the clit while licking the head with a pointed tongue. (See “How To Give Her the Best Cunnilingus“)
Position: In the missionary position, while you thrust inside the woman, she can do a downward roll of the pelvis. This will provide direct friction to the clit.
Toy: Cyberflicker vibrator
This is a small area of sensitive erectile tissue located just above and on both sides of the urethral opening. In other words, just above the vaginal opening. This can be stimulated by gently caressing it with the finger, tongue, or tip of the penis.
Foreplay: Lick the inner part of the vaginal lips, right above the clit. The inner part of her lips get licked, right above clit. Slip well lubricated fingers in and gently move them horizontally and vertically, or in circles.
Position: With the head of your penis (which doesn’t need to be erect) play around her vagina, where the U-Spot is located. Combine with clitoris stimulation since the U-Spot stimulation alone won’t cause an orgasm.
Toy: LayaSpot vibrator (also available here)
Also known as the Grafenberg Spot (named after the discoverer, Ernst Graferberg. This is a highly sensitive patch located on the upper wall of the vagina, 5-8 cm in from the vaginal opening. It is a bumpy patch that is, according to Grafenberg, “a primary erotic zone, perhaps more important than the clitoris.”
Foreplay: Insert the first two fingers 5-8 cm inside the vagina. Position the fingers at 12:15 and make a “come hither” motion.
Position: The woman lies down on a table (or bed with many pillows) with her back slightly angled. Her legs are up and slightly toward her breasts. You stand in front of her and enter slowly. Keep the thrusts shallow at first and then go deeper. Alternate.
Toy: Orchid G-Spot vibrator
Also known as the AFE Zone or Anterior Fomix Erogenous Zone. This the female equivalent to the male prostate, known as “female degenerated prostate.” It’s located just above the cervix, at the innermost point of the vagina. In other words, between the cervix and the bladder. This is a patch of sensitive tissue that causes women to lubricate and contract violently when stimulated.
Foreplay: Slide the fingers halfway up the vaginal wall. You’ll touch an area that is larger than the G-spot and a little bit rougher to the touch than the wall.
Position: Missionary style again, only this time, it’s the advanced version. The woman has her legs drawn to her breasts. You hold her legs apart with your arms and suspend yourself. This way, you’ll be able to get in deep.
Toy: AFE vibrator
A word about female ejaculation…
When women experience a powerful orgasm, some are able squirt liquid from their urethral opening. Don’t worry, it’s not pee; it’s a seminal liquid, not unlike the male spooge. The difference between male and female cum lies in the consistency and volume. Female cum is more like water, and can range from a couple of drops to almost two cups. Women who experience ejaculation (God love them) feel like they are about to urinate, but that’s just the muscular exertions of their orgasm. One man actually divorced his wife because he thought she peed on him every time they had sex. (Every time!?) Don’t make the same mistake. Instead, feel proud of yourself. Female ejaculation is a rare and beautiful thing (and something I have yet to experience).
~ Tammy Kenward