How To Give Her the Best Cunnilingus

Statistics show that men receive fellatio more than women receive cunnilingus (aka, muffin-diving). I have no idea where these statistics came from, but I’m just going to go right ahead and assume that it’s true. I’m also going to propose that we do something about that. It should, at the very least, be equal. So guys, shave that beard and trim those fingernails because you’re about to get sticky.

1. “Easy does’er.”
Arouse her slowly by kissing her and stroking the back of her neck. Touch her breasts lightly and begin kissing her face, neck and earlobes. Let your hand trail down and stroke her breasts, from the nipples down to the crease where her breast meets her body.

2. “I’m moving south.”
Gently trail your finger from her tummy to her groin. Lightly touch her over top of the panties and down at the crease where the thigh meets the pubic area. Move down and begin kissing her breasts, stomach and inner thighs. Move down even further and lightly brush your mouth against her area over the panties.

3. “You won’t be needing these.”
Remove her panties, but don’t do anything just yet. Let the air hit her wet pussy. Start teasing her again by kissing and licking her inner things and the crease. Go further in, gradually, by licking the outer lips of her labia and the inner lips around the vagina.

4. “We’re goin’ in.”
Open her up with your thumbs and lick her clitoris very softly. Focus on the hood, which is just above the clitoris. If the clit isn’t fully aroused, it’ll be too sensitive for direct contact just yet.
NOTE: You can tell if she is fully aroused when her clit is erect and her labia swelled. Then, and only then, can you go in with tongues and fingers a-blazin’!

5. “With tongue.”  
a) Spell out the alphabet with your tongue. You can make them wide to cover the whole vaginal area and/or make them small, focusing more on the clit. Variety of stimulation is key.
b) Flatten your tongue and lap her up, from her perineum (the skin that runs from her anus to the opening of her vagina) to her clit. Mix it up with some more alphabet licks.
c) Lick the inside of her vagina while rubbing your nose around her clit. Get your whole face in there and shake it from side to side.
d) Roll your tongue into a tube around her clit and slide it back and forth.

6. “And now for some fingers.”
a) Place your mouth around her clit and suck on it while flicking it with your tongue. At the same time, insert your thumb into the opening of her vagina.
b) Insert just the tip of your index finger into her vagina and move it around in circles. The spot just inside her opening is very sensitive.
c) Rub your thumbs in little circles around the clit while licking the head with a pointed tongue.
d) Insert your fingers deep inside her and make a “come hither” motion. This should hit her g-spot.

7.  “You deserve a medal.”
After she reaches orgasm, give yourself a pat on the back, and then begin to taper off by licking her softly and slowly. The clit is very sensitive after orgasm.

8. “Back in five.”
Since women are capable of having one orgasm after another, you can start from the beginning and do it all over again. What can I say? I guess we’re just lucky that way.

Like men, women enjoy eye contact while receiving oral sex, so crouch down between her spread legs while she’s lying flat on her back. Listen carefully to the sounds she makes. Obviously, if she sounds excited, continue doing what you’re doing. If she doesn’t, try a different variation. And be open for suggestions, as some women like to direct. And hey, have fun down there. Don’t worry, you’ll get your turn eventually.

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  1. Anonymous
    March 1, 2009

    This is definitely good advice!!!

  2. Anonymous
    March 1, 2009

    OMG, I think my new BF must have found this webpage because Boy followed your guidelines to a ‘T’, and trust me it was well worth it!!! Thanks for giving the tips.

  3. AnonymousMR
    March 2, 2009

    I read your article and found it very informative it describes almost exactly the way i approach it given that i can lick my eyebrows i should be getting in touch with you.

  4. Anonymous
    March 3, 2009

    the alphabet?? come on now…is this an excerpt from the book “going down for dummies”?

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  6. RebeccaJoseph
    December 10, 2013

    The tongue flutter is a truly wonderful sensation and although focusing on her clitoris will usually lead to a cunnilingus orgasm, it’s important not to over stimulate her love button. Make sure you spend time licking and loving all of her vagina. You can do this by concentrating on the nerve packed opening of her lady entrance, by making circles with your tongue around the rim, then darting your tongue in and out.  MORE AT —

  7. April 3, 2014

    Wow.. “some women like to direct” really? Didn’t figured that out…-_-

  8. Sarah
    May 4, 2014

    No, no, no to so much of this. For me and I suspect many others variety of stimulation is not the key. Find what feels best and then do that, steadily and consistently without changing anything. No to the suggestion of sticking in your face and wiggling it around. The orgasm from oral will come from the clit — from stroking it softly and steadily with your tongue for as long as it takes. Not from weird lapping all over or thumbs going in and out or face wiggling. And as far as any tactic you’ve seen in porn – forget it quickly. Ask your partner what feels good. And go from there.

  9. WeightLoss2
    November 19, 2014

    For the best cunnilingus tips, the first thing that you need to work on is slowly building the excitement. You should not yet head down south if you know that she is not yet properly stimulated. This is where your seduction skills as a man comes in. Engage in a racy game of strip poker to build up the excitement. Before getting her into bed, you can already tease her mind by giving her a preview of what you will do together in bed for that night.More importantly, engage in a long-winded make-out session, then proceed to foreplay – and when you see that she’s properly aroused, that is when you can apply the next set of cunnilingus tips.
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  10. anon
    April 25, 2015

    The best way to give good cunnilingus to a woman is to find our what she likes. Ask her, use her reactions as a guide if she is too shy to tell you what she wants. 

    Some women like it when you really go to town, some prefer you to be more gentle. Some women are really into direct clitoral contact and others are not. Some need a lot of teasing and foreplay to get into it and some are just so horny they want you to dive straight in!

    The central point is that whatever you are doing to drive one woman wild may not work on another woman.

  11. JenniferWilson2
    May 1, 2015

    A great technique to continue is using your tongue to lick out her vagina. Just like using your fingers, use your tongue in the same fashion. But begin this technique slowly, as some women don’t like it when you go too deep inside the vagina. Also remember that you shouldn’t be afraid to ask her if she does or doesn’t like something, there’s nothing worse than putting all you effort into something that she doesn’t even enjoy.
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  12. RobMiranda
    December 20, 2015

    Start licking her clitoris gently with your tongue to prepare her for this strong sensation technique. Once you see that she is ready, place your mouth over her clitoris and gently suck it in and out of your mouth. Be sure to use this technique only when she is really warmed up. Avoid using this move during her orgasms as the sensation may prove too strong for her to take it.

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  13. RobMiranda
    May 17, 2016

    Points to keep in mind to make cunnilingus pleasureable are:
    1. Share a shower or bath together before you start to make sure that you are both clean and add gels and lubricants to enhance taste and stimulation if you wish.
    2. Ask your partner what she likes. She can give you directions such as harder, slower, faster, more circles etc
    3. Fill your own mouth with as much saliva as you can before you begin and never touch or lick the clitoris when performing Cunnilingus with a dry finger or tongue.
    4. Don’t go for the clitoris make sure she is warmed up and aroused. Try gentle kissing and licking around the upper thighs and vulva area and work your way up to the clitoris.
    5. Use a variety of ways to arouse her. If you repeat the same motion, your partner can become insensitive to it, keep in mind variety with Cunnilingus and keep her expectations up.
    6. As she becomes more aroused, insert a finger or two into her vagina as well.
    7. Continue to touch and hold her as she orgasms and after and make her feel wanted and loved.
    8. The clitoris has more nerve endings than the entire head of the penis, so be very careful not to be to hard with it go gently and remember ask her all the time what she likes and doesn’t.
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